09 Jul Relationship > Dating
As a growing child, I always thought the word relationship could only be used for two persons of opposite sexes. Gradually as I became mature, I got to understand the term ‘relationship’. Relationship is a term used to describe the coming together of two or more persons with a mutual understanding.
In it’s purest form, dating is auditioning for mating (and auditioning means we may or may not get the part) ~Joy Browne.
I’ll define dating as a casual relationship between two persons without serious attachment or commitment, implying you could date one person and still see other people. Personally, I classified dating into 3 types which includes;
• Friends with benefit
• Let’s see how it goes
• Open relationship
◦ For the first category, we have two persons (could be friends) agreeing to be partners for their individual benefits with no strings attached. People involved in a friends with benefit relationship enjoy spending time together and hooking up, but do not want to be committed to each other.
◦ In the second category, there is indecisiveness involved. you’re not sure you want to commit just yet. You’re sceptical about the other party but you still want to try either ways.
◦ Then we have the open relationship, where both parties are non-exclusive but could also be intimate with each other. Both parties agree to freely see other persons without being tagged or seen as being cheats or unfaithful.
Relationship on the other hand, is the bond or mutual connection that exist between two or more persons. There are different types of relationships;
• Friend relationships
• Family relationships
• Romantic relationships
◦ Friendship involves two or more persons not related by blood but by choice. These persons trust, respect and confide in each other. A good friend relationship must be built on honesty, support and most importantly loyalty. Both parties should be equally invested in the friendship to prevent unrequited friendship which could be painful for the party more invested.
◦ Family are people who we are related to and naturally feel connected to.. They are people who we’ve mostly known since birth and gotten really familiar with. They include Parents, siblings, cousins, etc. Scenarios could occur where we find ourselves withdrawing from our family especially siblings or parents, which is expected if you’ve been apart for a long period of time or haven’t been spending time together due to life. Notwithstanding, It is very important that we build a strong relationship with our family members especially our immediate family members, because family can be a lifelong source of support in all areas.
◦ Acquaintances are people we know or have encounter with but are not particularly close to. An acquaintance could be a neighbor who lives a house or more apart, whom you exchange pleasantries with when you see them. An acquaintance could also be a colleague at work or someone you see and talk to at a restaurant probably during lunch break. It is very important to be polite, friendly and respectful around acquaintances because you never can tell where life throws you or what life throws at you. They may end up being a huge part of your life at the long run and how you treated them in the past most often affects how they reciprocate.
◦ Romantic relationship mostly exist between two persons who feel a strong connection towards each other. This involves physical and emotional intimacy. A romantic relationship is one of the closest form of relationships and the two persons involved often describe themselves as being ‘in love’. They feel a strong connection and bond with each other that they do not have with anyone else, even close friends. This relationship is expected to be exclusive or monogamous. A successful romantic relationship is built on love, trust, respect, support, acceptance, shared interests and a desire for the two persons involved wanting to share their lives together. Various kinds of physical contacts are accepted in romantic relationships which would not be appropriate in any other kind of relationship which include; prolonged cuddling and holding, kissing on the lips and sexual intercourse. However, these should be based on mutual agreement and consent. Arguments and disagreements could occur in romantic relationships. This could be overcomed through effective communication, understanding and compromise. In some cases, when these arguments become two frequent, the two persons involved may decide to end the relationship.
Personally, I think getting involved in a person’s life isn’t a trivial issue and should be taken seriously. Knowing what you want and going for it is also important so as to avoid hurt. A person who isn’t used to prolonged conversations with other persons will find it hard adjusting to someone who has no problem talking all the time. If as a person, you aren’t willing to compromise to make your significant other happy, then there is no point embarking on such a journey, to avoid hurt on the long run. I also think it shouldn’t be a do or die affair.. let it flow naturally.. if it doesn’t work out even after putting it lots of effort.. then let it be… if it does, make the most of it and give it your best!.
A friend once said;
“As much as we do not want to accept, we often make our castles out of our sands. That is, we relatively define our relationship how we want to”.
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